I first learned about BJ Miller when I watched the documentary short End Game on Netflix a few years ago.

It's a beautiful documentary that challenges how we consider death and dying. BJ Miller is a very remarkable person. If you don't know who he is, definitely click on the links provided here.

His Ted talk, What really matters at the end of life, is a good place to start.

Visit his Zen Hospice Project to learn more about his incredible efforts on changing the way we consider dying.


Sorry for the blurry screenshot.

I witnessed a Twitter exchange with BJ Miller few months back that featured five questions. I wish I could give credit to someone for the questions, but when I went back to Twitter to find out who I took the screenshot from, I couldn't find it. Just keep in mind that the graphic is not mine.

I think the questions are straightforward yet meaningful. I appreciated the honesty in his responses, and it motivated me to keep the screenshot for a future post. Then I thought you might want to consider your responses too.


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What makes you come alive?

Any type of creativity. Whether it's writing, dancing to music, decorating, taking care of my plants, or repurposing things around the house.

Pivotal turning point in your life?

Menopause. I'm considerably stronger now than I was during perimenopause, which has given me the confidence to work on myself. As a result, I'm far more emotionally mature than I used to be.

An act of kindness you'll never forget?

My friend Kristen giving up one day a week for four months to help me with my book.

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One thing on your bucket list?

I'd like to eat at Alinea in Chicago.

One-line message for the world?

Don't take anything personally.


What would your responses be?